Wednesday, August 10, 2005

Reply to Michele's sideblog

I understand where you're coming from Michele. You can see that you've done wrong, and you can apologise for it. I praise you highly for that. A lot of people can't see what they've done wrong, and how much they've hurt people. A few days ago, my sister came here to pay back some money she owed my father. She didn't have the full amount to pay him back, and she knew if I found out, I would have had a go at her. She proceeded to pay back Dad behind my back, then walked into my bedroom where I was, and told me that she was not a taxi service, that the driving around she had done for me cost her fifty dollars in petrol (a lie to start with, it doesn't cost fifty dollars to drive to the local shopping centre twice) and that in turn she had no money for groceries. So, I asked her what her problem was. She then started in on me about my mother's funeral, saying that she had no say in anything that was done (another lie), then said that my mother was never her mother, that she was MY mother only. Of course, I saw red. I told her that she had no right saying that, that she never cared about my mother in all the time that she was sick, that she never even went to her own mothers funeral, nor has been to the cemetery in all this time. She then started in about how I get the house when Dad dies. Which is true, I receive the house in Dad's will, because I have looked after them for so long, both mum and dad said because I've had no opportunity to get a job, in turn getting my own house, that I should have it when they both die. BUT, being the person I am, I have chosen to give 25% of the house to my sisters. Of course, she doesnt like that. She thinks that if I'm living in the house, rent free, why should she pay for land rates? Anyway, that part of it is long and complicated, but that's the gist of it. So..she then told me I was no better than my Aunt, who when my grandmother died, tried her damn best to take her house without the other sisters and brothers knowing. So, as anyone who knows me knows, I would never do that to anyone. As all this abuse was happening, she was walking to her car. I had to turn away because if I didn't, I think I would have smashed her car window in. The point of my story? The one who is supposed to be supporting me the most, my big sister, the one who's always been the toughest, is nothing but a gutless bitch. Family....who needs em?

4 comments:

Michele said...

It sounds like your sister has a lot of anger issues built up and that she is taking them out on you. I would suggest showing her love, no matter what, but then that is me. Some people can't do that. I do believe that you should get the house. You have done so much for your parents, and I respect you for it.

nenni said...

I think the house should be 100% yours, no matter what. you've given up a huge chunk of your life to help look after family and not much people would be willing to do so. it's been hard, as you've told me and as I've seen you say, in the past (long before we became friends) but I can understand your nature to give a % to your sisters. I would do the same if in your position...
Mine isnt like yours but I have two half brothers..one of whom I've actually met. By Scottish law, they are entitled to a % of my father's estate, which my dad didnt want. He left everything to me after my mum left us but Scottish law lets you down! I had to share the money left over from the estate with my two half brothers. I only got an extra £70 then them. Which was against my dad's wishes...my point is, family is for shit with some people. The half brother I've met let my dad down and he wanted nothing to do with him. The day my dad died, I called Andy and told him dad had died and when the funeral would be...what did he do? He said "I'm tired. I'll be up on the day" The day came, no flowers, no card, no Andy. Few months later, I got a letter from his then gf with some pics of my niece and in the letter, she asked for the sword that was hanging on the wall in the house. Andy wanted it. So I wrote her back and said that if he wasnt man enough to come to my dad's funeral, then he wasnt man enough to own anything of my dad's and that he could kiss my fucking ass! The story of this goes on and on but my point is that even though he was a prick to me dad, I needed him there for support and he made the excuse that his work wouldnt let him have time off. TOTAL BULLSHIT!!! I'll stop now because this is huge lol

LuNaMooN said...

it's just bullshit, my sister's always been jealous of me and my other sister, she has no need to be tho, she's taken so much from us, not just money, tho that's the main thing, this kind of thing has been going on for years. she's fucking 40 years old and she cant fend for herself. We've always got to bail her out of the shit. She reckons she's got bipolar, bullshit, she's just fucking selfish. I could go on for hours about her, what she's done. If you were to hear it, it'll curl your hair.

Michele said...

Sounds to me that all of you need to let her fend for herself for a while. Don't loan her anymore money. It would be hard but it would be for the best. She needs to learn that she can't treat people expecially family like that.